My Mother

My mother and I don't always get along very well. More often than not, it seems that one of us is saying the wrong thing, presses the wrong buttons and, as a result, our conversations tend to be quite explosive! Yet, in our heart of hearts, we know that we love each other dearly. I always felt, though, that my dad could understand me more than any other person in the world - this is probably why I'll never get over his sudden death 10  years ago.

With my mum - Nicosia, September 1958

I've often had a rather strained relationship with my mother. She'd criticise almost everything - my hair, my clothes, my friends, my behaviour or attitude, my opinion on various issues, the way I decorate my flat, my flat in general - the list is endless! I strongly felt being under scrutiny and, as a result, I avoided sharing my secrets or troubles with her. On the other hand, I admit to my flaws. I'm kind of blunt and always speak my mind because I'd rather say something to somebody's face than behind their back. In other words, I'm not diplomatic! Our relationship improved a lot when I decided to see things from her point of view.

My mum - Christmas Eve 2004

I felt I could understand her better and eventually realised how much she cared and how wrong I was to pick on her. By appreciating the positive side of her character, I was able to connect with her and communicate much better. For example, she never meddled in my life, never made any comments whatsoever. On the contrary, she was a pattern of discretion. My mum is the sweetest and kindest person I've ever known. Despite her occasional criticisms, she's always been there for me offering her support in times of hardship and sharing my happiness in times of joy. Now I know that she's done an excellent job and I'll be forever thankful for all the sacrifices she's made for me and my brother.

On a summer holiday with my mother - August 2005

At 76 , my mum is an independent person, who lives on her own and has many hobbies and interests in her life such as going on day trips, cooking, reading, writing, charity, decorating to mention only a few. She's also the kindest person I've ever known. She always has a good word for everyone and when she can she helps others very willingly. I feel I owe her a lot - most importantly I owe her my life.

Comments

[Tipper]

Loved this Mother's Day post Anastasia : )

[Christina]

My relationship with my mother is very similar to yours. We fight a lot and often hurt each other, but I know I love her and she loves me and that's what matters most.

[Kofla Olivieri]

Thanks for sharing! Happy Mothers day!

[Stefania]

A wonderful post and a beautiful tribute to your mother.

[Sophia]

I used to argue a lot with my mother. It was only when I lost her that I realized how much time was lost over trivial matters. Sometimes we behave as if we're going to live for ever. I wish I had made an effort to understand her like you did with your mother.

[Alexia M]

There is such a strong bond of love between you and your mother, judging from the photo of you as a baby in your mother's arms. Growing up is painful for everyone and we all experience good times and bad times. Thanks for sharing such a great post and beautiful photos of you and your mother.

[Lisa A]

Your mother is so beutifull and you look like her. Sometimes with my daughter who is 13 we are not get on very well and we fight for silly things. I know that I am not her best friend and I don't want to be because I am her mother but she know that I love her so much and if I am angry sometimes is because I want the best for her. 13 is a very difficult age and I am try to be patient :-)