Anastasia

My Mother

My mother and I don't always get along very well. More often than not, it seems that one of us is saying the wrong thing, presses the wrong buttons and, as a result, our conversations tend to be quite explosive! Yet, in our heart of hearts, we know that we love each other dearly. I always felt, though, that my dad could understand me more than any other person in the world - this is probably why I'll never get over his sudden death 10  years ago.

With my mum - Nicosia, September 1958

I've often had a rather strained relationship with my mother. She'd criticise almost everything - my hair, my clothes, my friends, my behaviour or attitude, my opinion on various issues, the way I decorate my flat, my flat in general - the list is endless! I strongly felt being under scrutiny and, as a result, I avoided sharing my secrets or troubles with her. On the other hand, I admit to my flaws. I'm kind of blunt and always speak my mind because I'd rather say something to somebody's face than behind their back. In other words, I'm not diplomatic! Our relationship improved a lot when I decided to see things from her point of view.

My mum - Christmas Eve 2004

I felt I could understand her better and eventually realised how much she cared and how wrong I was to pick on her. By appreciating the positive side of her character, I was able to connect with her and communicate much better. For example, she never meddled in my life, never made any comments whatsoever. On the contrary, she was a pattern of discretion. My mum is the sweetest and kindest person I've ever known. Despite her occasional criticisms, she's always been there for me offering her support in times of hardship and sharing my happiness in times of joy. Now I know that she's done an excellent job and I'll be forever thankful for all the sacrifices she's made for me and my brother.

On a summer holiday with my mother - August 2005

At 76 , my mum is an independent person, who lives on her own and has many hobbies and interests in her life such as going on day trips, cooking, reading, writing, charity, decorating to mention only a few. She's also the kindest person I've ever known. She always has a good word for everyone and when she can she helps others very willingly. I feel I owe her a lot - most importantly I owe her my life.

Sunday Outing - Agios Theodoros

Today was one of those lovely, sunny days in early spring, albeit a bit windy. It was one of those days which make you unwilling to stay indoors, so Alkis and I decided to spend it in the nearby countryside.

Agios Theodoros Beach

Agios Theodoros Beach

Agios Theodoros Beach

Agios Theodoros Beach

Situated off the beaten track in a lush valley along the banks of Pentashinos river, at about 25 km from Larnaca, Agios Theodoros is a small, traditional village with a population of 600 inhabitants. Named after the patron saint of the village, Agios Theodoros of Tyrona, this tiny village offers stunning views of the mountains, and yet, it's only just a 5-minute drive from the coast. The inhabitants of the village are like a big family who would greet and welcome a visitor with a big, genuine smile. The village is also noted for its great tavernas serving meze, fresh fish and local specialities.  

Marida

Red Mullet

Having taken a long walk along Agios Theodoros Beach, we had lunch at Limni Tavern. Being a great fish lover, I had marida for starters - a kind of small fish which lives in the Greek seas. It's so tiny that you can eat it whole with its head and bone. I just love it! Then I had my favourite fish -  fresh red mullet which was delicious! After such a great lunch, we enjoyed  coffees and pishies - a local dessert - while contemplating the infinite blue of the eastern Mediterranean. 

Tsiknopempti - Fat or Burnt Thursday

Tsiknopempti (Burnt Thursday)  is the Greek equivalent of Fat Tuesday (Mardi Gras). It is  celebrated eleven days before the start of Lent. The "Burnt" part refers to the grilling of meats (barbrcue), a big part of the celebration of this day.

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The weekend following "Burnt Thursday" will also have parties and other events such as  the Carnival. Technically, that Sunday is the last allowable day for eating meat and is sometimes called "Meat-eating Sunday" .  In Cyprus it's called "sikoses" from the greek verb "sikono" literally meaning "to rise" , but , as a metaphor it means to be up and dance and be merry and eat to your heart's content ! Right now, all the Greek restaurants and tavernas are literally packed and the Greeks party, eating grilled meats, drinking wine, ouzo or retsina and dancing. Many Greeks also paint their faces black ...to match them with the spirit of tsiknopempti (Burnt Thursday).whereas others prefer to make their own barbecue at home and invite their friends and family.

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Such a pity Tsiknopempti always falls on a school night! I'll sign off wishing you "Kales Sikoses" - a traditional wish we exchange in Cyprus on Tsiknopempti.

Sundays - January 2013

Sunday is the only day of the week I'm off work so I try to spend it doing my favourite leisure activities unless marking tests and homework piles up. What relaxes me most is the sea which has always been fascinating to me. The nearest beach is only about 4 km from home. In summer I go swimming almost every day and in winter I enjoy taking a long walk along the sandy beach on a sunny day like today. After the cold spell in early January, we are now enjoying blue skies, sunny days and temperatures rising to 20*C. I can even smell spring in the air! Alkis usually works on Sunday mornings but we often  have lunch in the nearby countryside. Our favourite restaurant is Archontiko Papadopoulou at Kornos village.

Finicoudes Beach - Larnaca

I enjoy cooking on Sundays, though. If we don't eat out, I  test my culinary skills. Cooking can be both relaxing and creative. I love making greek pies such as leek pie with mince meat or cooking  Alkis's favourite:  whole wheat spaghetti with mixed vegetables and ouzo. Whenever I prepare this dish, it turns out great!

whole wheat spaghetti

Archontiko Papadopoulou - Kornos

Blogging is by far my most favourite pastime and I sometimes wish I could blog more often during the week. On Sundays, I also love re-arranging my perfume collection or simply indulging a craving for chocolate!

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Paphos - January 2013

It's amazing how this holiday season has just flown by. A Christmas holiday in London and a few days in Paphos to welcome the New Year were more than enough for me to relax, recharge the batteries and begin the new term at school tomorrow. After London where Alkis and I spent a lot of time walking, catching buses and trains, sightseeing, shopping and going out, our short holiday in Paphos, on the western coast, was peaceful and very relaxing.  Paphos is one of my most favourite holiday destinations in Cyprus as it combines  the unspoilt beauty of tranquil beaches and the hustle and bustle of a small, touristy town. In winter, however, there are few tourists and it's much quieter. Once more, we stayed at Coral Bay Beach Hotel overlooking Coral Bay - one of the most beautiful beaches in Cyprus. 

Coral Bay - Paphos

On our way to Coral Bay (Pegeia Village) at about 150 km from Larnaca, we  had lunch at Captain's Fish Tavern at the village of Pissouri. Both the food and the service are excellent and prices are very reasonable. 

Captain's Fish Tavern - Pissouri

Pissouri Beach

Captain's Fish Tavern - Pissouri

Pissouri Beach

The weather was a bit whimsical: Sunny days and blue skies were soon replaced by storms, strong winds and torrential rain. The whims of the weather, however,  did not spoil our high spirits not for one moment.

Coral Bay: Before the storm

Paphos- Pegeia - Coral Bay: After the storm

On our first night at Coral Bay, we had dinner at the Japanese restaurant Samisen - not far from our hotel. On a cold, rainy night, Miso soup with chicken was the perfect starter. I also loved their maki, sushimi and teppanyaki  salmon served with rice and vegetables. If you like Japanese food and  happen to be in the area, give it a try. You won't regret it.  After such a great dinner, we enjoyed our drinks in the festive and romantic atmosphere of the bar at Coral Bay Beach Hotel.

Miso Soup - Samisen Japanese Restaurant

Maki - Samisen Japanese Restaurant

Teppanyaki Salmon and Fresh Vegetables - Samisen Japanese Restaurant

Banana Tempura for Dessert - Samisen Japanese Restaurant

And a show for fun - Samisen Japanese Restaurant

Coral Beach Hotel - The Bar

(Sorry my flash didn't go off in the last photo)

Today is the last holiday for the Greeks.  On the stroke of January 6th, the "twelve days of Christmas" officially come to an end. This day takes on a special meaning in Greece and Cyprus. All over the world, the Greek orthodox observe the baptism of Jesus Christ by John the Baptist, in the river Jordan. The Greek word for Epiphany is Theophania meaning the "appearance of God" referring to the Holy Trinity: the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. According to tradition, we eat fish on January 6th, which reminds me that  I definitely need to go back to healthy eating habits after having indulged in copious meals and desserts for two weeks now! Grilled salmon and a salad sound great for lunch today. 

Sunday's Greek Savoir-Vivre - Making Introductions

Not long ago, I was invited to a social event where everything was just perfect except one thing. I didn't know anyone there and, to make things worse, no one bothered to make introductions. I felt awkward but I took things into my own hands and introduced myself. However, being introduced shows respect for your guest and makes you feel part of the group in addition to inviting you to the conversation. 

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1. In general, men are introduced to women unless men are elderly people or people of a high rank. So their names should be mentioned first.

- Mr President, may I introduce my wife Cathy?

- Mr Williams, may I present my husband John?

2. Younger people are introduced to other people.

- Grandma, I'd like you to meet my friend, Chloe.

3. Guests of honour are introduced to others attending a social event.

- May I introduce Mrs Gordon, our guest of honour?

4.  When introducing family to other people, always mention their relationship to you.

- Mrs Newton, this is my son Richard.

5. A client is introduced to anyone in your company including the CEO.

- Mrs Thorton, this is  Mr Roberts, our sales manager.

6. Men introduced to women, older people or people of a high rank should wait for the person to extend his/her hand. If not, they should simply smile and say: "Nice to meet you."

7. In Cyprus, in informal situations, it's ok to introduce a person with Mr/Mrs and first name only:

- Mrs Maria, this is my cousin Alexis.

8. If a Greek priest is introduced, you should kiss his hand.

 

Sunday's Greek Savoir-Vivre - Formal Dinners

 

 

 

Saint Valentine's Dinner 2008

 

1. The first and important thing to know is that  the table cutlery in formal dinners has a specific order. The ones that are away, that is, away from the plate, are the ones that we have to use first. And then we will continue with the rest following the same order. The forks are located to the left and the knives to the right. The spoons are also located to the right if there is soup in the menu. The cutlery for dessert is located in a horizontal position at the top of our plate. If there's a salad, the salad spoon is the first to use without a knife.
2. When it comes to the glasses, there are three types in general. They are located from left to right in the following order: water, white wine, red wine. According to the occasion, we could find a champagne glass that will be the fourth and last glass.
3. At the dinner table, we don't lean on the table or use our hands to support our head.We never fill up our plate!  We can have a second serving later.
4. We never pick up food with a piece of bread, dip  the bread in the soup or use it to mop up sauces!
5. If we need condiments or some more bread, we don't stand up nor do we stretch across the table crossing other guests to reach the item. We kindly ask the person sitting nearer to pass it to us.
6. Once seated, we unfold the napkin and place it on our knees. When we finish we place it tidily to the right side of our plate.
7. We should not be the first or the last to finish.
8. The host and hostess may wish to make a toast. In this case, we raise our glass slightly. In formal dinner parties we don't clink glasses.
9. We should not place our handbag  on the table. In a restaurant we hang it on the chair or place it on the floor next to our chair. If the dinner takes place at somebody's home, we leave it on our seat in the living-room.
10. Unless we need to use the bathroom, we don't leave the table before the host and hostess do so.
11. If the food presented to us is not to our liking, it is polite to at least make an effort to eat a small amount of it. Or at the very least, cut it up a little, and move it around the plate! In all cases, we never criticise the food or the service in a restaurant. If we feel unable to pay a compliment to the host and hostess, it's wise to remain silent.
12. It's all right to leave some food in our plate if we think we have eaten enough. On the other hand, we should not clean our plate as if we haven't eaten in days!
13. We never forget to thank the host and hostess before leaving. It's also good manners to send a handwritten thank-you note the following day.

You are very welcome to add any tips on Formal Dinner Etiquette in your country.

Sunday's Greek Savoir-Vivre - When Invited to Dinner...

• We never arrive earlier than the time specified on the invitation unless we have kindly arranged that with the hosts. Neither do we arrive much later as this will, most probably, embarrass our hosts and spoil their plans.  According to the Greek etiquette, arriving 15 minutes later is the perfect timing. 
• We ask our hosts if there is a seating arrangement. If not, we choose a seat at the dinner table and avoid chnanging seats or moving around the table.
• When accepting an invitation to dinner, we kindly ask if there is a dress code.
• The departure of the guests must be made gradually so that our hosts do not feel that right after dinner their guests wish to leave. On the other hand, we do not prolong our visit after the last guests have left.
• We never wrangle with the guests as this will certainly embarrass everyone and create a negative ambiance.
• We never sink into the sofa and avoid stretching our arms or yawn!
• We set our mobile phone to silent. Should we need to answer it, we apologise and make sure our conversation is as brief as possible.
• If we are invited to a restaurant, our hosts will pay the bill. We thank our hosts and do not argue when the bill arrives.
  

Sunday's Greek Savoir-Vivre - Accepting or Refusing an Invitation

 Dictionary. Com defines savoir-vivre as the knowledge of the world and the ways or usages of polite society. This etiquette or set of rules, if you like, may vary from country to country.  I hope that on Sundays , you will enjoy this new series of posts on the Greek savoir-vivre. You are most welcome to share your own.

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 How to accept or refuse an invitation

If you  have been invited to lunch or dinner at a friend’s house, it is important to respond as soon as you get the invitation, especially if RSVP is included in the invitation – often in small fonts. RSVP, from the French Répondre  S’il Vous Plaît , means Please Respond.

If you are going to refuse an invitation, make sure you find a simple and plausible excuse.

The etiquette dictates to respond in writing to a written invitation. Today, however, this is considered obsolete and is maintained only at extremely formal occasions, such as an invitation from the president of the republic.     

If you answer positively, you must attend and you should definitely not call for a last-minute cancellation unless there is a really serious reason to do so. 

You should not go empty-handed  except for business events. A small gift for your friends, some flowers, a bottle of wine, a box of chocolates are always very welcome.

As soon as you accept the invitation,  you should mention if you are allergic to certain foods, if you are on diet, if you are vegetarian or if you are fasting. Do not wait to mention this when you sit at the table! It is very rude and embarrassing for your hosts – even if these are your best friends.

You should always respect the dress code ( if there is one) indicated on the invitation in order not to embarrass your hosts.   

Sunday Stroll in Larnaca

 

Sunday Stroll along Finicoudes Promenade

 

I sometimes take for granted the beauty of the town I've been living in for the last 28 years. When Alkis and I first moved to Larnaca back in November 1984, I could hardly call it home.. We both missed our hometowns - Nicosia and Serres.  Living in Larnaca wasn't easy for either of us, but very soon we both fell in love with the beautiful city of Zenon to such an extent that we no longer miss our hometowns as much as we did when we first came to live here.

The Medieval Castle at the end of Finicoudes Promenade

 

Last Sunday, we had the pleasure to meet up with some good friends from Thessaloniki and enjoyed a stroll along Finicoudes Promenade which boasts probably the best beach in Larnaca. Such a pity the sea was too cold for us to swim! Finicoudes means little  palm trees in Greek. The seafront was named after the palm trees that were planted there hundreds of years ago. Now they are tall palm trees that have survived time and often adverse weather conditions. After our leisurely stroll, we had lunch at Meze-Meze - a Greek restaurant I strongly recommend. There's great food, excellent service and good value for money. 

Larnaca-Finicoudes

 

During our stroll, we noticed that Larnaca has already started the preparations for the country's greatest summer festival called Kataklysmos   - or the Flood Festival -  which marks the beginning of summer and attracts thousands of visitors every year.